As kids we felt invincible, we were our own super heroes, however fear is a learned response. We quickly absorb what we observe, at times even unconsciously. When that is the case, we end up incorporating certain negative patterns in our lives without much thought as to the long-term consequences.
These patterns which steer us in one direction or the other can be fear, insecurity, anxiety, all leading to increased stress. We literally forget ourselves most of the times trying to manage our day-to-day lives, and it’s so hard to hear our own inner voice, when there is so much noise.
It is essential we continue to ask ourselves those questions they asked us as children, and reach a point where we can answer with child-like certainty. This requires us to examine our lives, and to see what is working and what needs to change. Most of all, we need clarity as to the general direction we want our lives to go. Can we do this on our own? Certainly, but sometimes an outsider’s eye helps us gain some perspective.
A life coach is essentially an ally, a fresh eye that can help you de-clutter and simplify your life, so as to naturally realize this clarity of vision. More importantly, a life coach can support and sustain you as you go about designing a life worthy of that vision.
Life coaching can offer easy to use tools and strategies that will naturally enable you to achieve the life you want. As with everything, what will get you there has to be simple, easy to use, and when put into practice it has to work.
Studies have shown that successful people direct their lives towards specific goals. Goals get you thinking about reaching beyond your comfort zone, which is good because everything we want to achieve is presently outside our comfortable grasp.
It is unfortunate that many of us never achieve our potential because leaving our comfort zone terrifies us. Life coaching may help you getting out of your own way, so that you can achieve your potential. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating the life you want.
Life coaching can help you:
1. Access your resourcefulness2. Achieve abundance in your life
3. Set far better goals that motivate you
4. Move forward personally and professionally
5. Ultimately, it can help you enjoy a better life
What are some of the tools in a life coaching toolbox?
Most life coaches will conduct their sessions by asking pointed questions aimed at stimulating reflection on specific areas of your life that you feel need improvement. As with the Socratic method, you will find the answers that are already within you. You are after a resourceful person. It is just a matter of tapping into your personal power.
Sometimes you will complete worksheets and questionnaires specifically designed to elicit strategic thinking and actions, setting and achieving goals, or identifying matters that need to be address in order to access resourceful emotions.
Working things out on paper may help you gain some perspective. That is why you may also be asked to start a journal to collect insights that you have reached during your sessions, and reflect on how these insights will direct changes in your life.
Last but not least, you will sometimes engage in guided visualization. Visualization is one of the most effective ways to access your inner power and bring abundance into your life. It may allow you to reach greater motivation and re-examine, resolve and rewrite non-resourceful emotions, beliefs and experiences. Think of it as a system upgrade to enable you to use all those cool apps you’ve been wanting to play with for so long.
Taken separately, all different elements of life coaching--goal setting questionnaires, empowering visualizations, a mentoring and supportive relationship with your coach--, may not seem like a lot. Together they naturally sustain positive change and achievement, and they ultimately help you get to where you want to go. So, how about it? Are you ready to design a life worthy of your vision?
Rita Gagliano is a Certified Coach Practitioner at Lavandula Wellness Center. You can follow her blog at http://thrivedynamics.ca, or book an appointment at http://www.lavandulawellnesscenter.com/.
Rita Gagliano
Lavandula Wellness Centre
46 King St West
Dundas, ON L9H 1T7
www.lavandulawellnesscenter.com
