The “Transformative” path…..
Today you will learn how to take the next step towards your life goals and your ultimate dream.
Transformation, or change of any kind, is not easy. Releasing old habits and thoughts is often challenging and frustrating. Patience is the key to recovery. Recognizing why you need or want to make a change is vital. You can only make changes for yourself; you cannot make changes for another, unless you are a parent of a small child or the caregiver of someone who is unable to make life choices. Transformation is about empowering yourself, giving yourself permission to release and let go of that which is no longer serving a purpose in your current life. This could be a relationship, a home, a job, or simply a thought system.
Letting go of a relationship often seems the most challenging. We tend to become “stuck” in a situation where another is concerned; we have a difficult time cutting ties to family, friends and often colleagues. We are so focussed on not hurting another, or causing more tension, more friction and/or more upheaval in an emotional situation, that we lose ourselves to save another.
You are the only person who can choose to cut these ties. You are the only one who chooses how you spend the rest of your life. Listen to your “gut” feeling and ask yourself these simple questions: Does this relationship make your life easier or more difficult? Do you spend more time crying than laughing? Do you constantly have a spring in your step, or are you constantly tired? Your “gut” response will provide the answers for you, listen carefully! Your first response is the true response.
So, how do you make the change? When you have decided to “release” the old, and “initiate” the new, everything falls into place. You will meet new people who can guide and support you, you will find solutions and options you had never thought of.
Talking about your feelings, your fears and your future to a professional or third party listener, always helps you to understand your needs and helps you see clearly into the next phase of your life.
Support groups are great for meeting others who have either gone through or are going through similar circumstances as your-self. You may also choose to promote encouragement and motivation in others, using your experiences and coping skills. Read/write about your struggles and your journey forward.
Changing thoughts! Believe it or not, this is the most challenging of all. Letting go of inherited thoughts (labels or, ideals given to you as a child), cemented indoctrination (religious, educational, parental), peer expectation (conforming/acceptance) and issues of confidence & self worth.
Change one word (or belief) at a time is the way forward. You can do this through meditation, visualization, peer support groups and/or counseling session. (Life coaching, hypnotherapy etc.). Initiate and design your own “mantra”, a word, sound or vibration, which becomes a repetitive sounding focus point, allowing your mind to utilize and accept what is being said or heard. (Chanting) Write a dream list or create a dream board. This gives you a visual focus point, something to plan for something you can actually see, rather than mentally envision.
Surround yourself with inspirational books of poetry or stories, spiritually uplifting or vibrational music (harp, drums, wind instruments, bird or ocean sounds). Hypnotic or rhythmic movement, (swaying, soul dancing).
Believe – this is where it all begins. Believe you are worthy, believe you have the knowledge, and believe you are the key to change. BELIEVE in all that is “universally” true. Believe you are better than the words of other’s. BELIEVE you will transform and change for a better and more rewarding life. Trust and Faith – have faith in your own power, and, trust in the outcome.
Yours in health, love and transformation
Lilyana.
Workshops on Transformation & Life Enhancement starting soon at Lavandula Wellness Center in Dundas & DharmaReiki in Burlington.
