It’s at the top of the list with “I love you”, “How are you?”, “I’m fine” and “It’s just me.” My American friends and colleagues laugh at how often Canadians ‘apologize’.
This morning I was walking from the bank to the coffee shop with the intention of smiling or greeting every person that I encounter. This is an empowering exercise that I do when I feel that I need to shift my energy. As I was approaching a women that was walking ahead of me, she turned to me and said “I’m sorry. I’m just dawdling along.”
She was implying that she was moving slower and possibly in my way because I was walking at a faster pace. I smiled and replied “No worries, keep dawdling.” We then made some small talk about the weather and I continued
on at my pace. As the distance grew between us I realized that what she had said was an unintentional lie and an unnecessary apology. How could she feel sorry for walking slow? I was not offended of course but I did giggle at
the ridiculousness and insincerity of the phrase “I’m sorry”.
How many times do you say “I’m sorry”, to a stranger, and not really mean it?
She caught up with me at the intersection where we resumed our cheerful small talk. I took this opportunity to share with her the enlightening lesson that was revealed by our first conversation. I said to her “If dawdling and enjoying your walk on a beautiful day puts you in a ‘happy zone’, you should never apologize for it. You should never apologize for being happy.” We laughed at the absurdity of the phrase and we wished each other farewell.
As the day progressed I reflected on this experience with 3 questions:
1. Has the phrase “I’m sorry” been subconsciously transformed into an excuse
to initiate a connection or conversation with another person?
2. Have people become so disconnected from each other that they are
finding excuses to re-connect?
3. Are people more receptive to an apology rather than random and
unexpected conversation from a stranger?
We can easily achieve positive encounters and experiences with others
by choosing different words such as; “Hello”. Every word is a vibration whether it is written, thought or said. The meaning and effect of words can be changed by our emotions, beliefs and intentions. If we apologize without sincerity or purpose what energy are we sharing with the world?
What energy are we surrounding our self with? “I’m sorry” implies that we are sympathetic or regretful. If these words become a repetitive and meaningless phrase that we say subconsciously the energy we are projectinginto the world is not just the vibration of sympathy and regret but also the vibration of insincerity.
What words do you choose to create meaningful and sincere communication?
Kathy Corbett-King
Lightworker, Wordsmith
BodynSol 905-975-2836
www.bodynsol.com
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